WHAT IS BULLYING ?
Bullying is when one person continually behaves in a way that hurts another. This is done deliberately where the person doing the bullying wants to, and chooses to, hurt another .
Bullying can happen in many ways, such as:
Encouraging others not to be friends with that person
Online bullying via email or social media
Children can be victims of bullying at school, in the playground, in the street, online or even on their mobile phone.
WHY DO PEOPLE BULLY OTHERS?
Those who bully others are looking to gain a feeling of power, purpose and control over you. They will find something they don't like about you and continually push it upon you until you begin to believe what they are telling you, even if its not true. They do this because they want the power and control of knowing that they have made you feel bad about yourself, usually because they feel bad about themselves and want to deflect that feeling onto someone else.
There are many reasons why they may do this. as you can see below. Whilst none of these are an excuse or a reason to bully another, it may give some understanding as to what leads others to be so unkind :
They have been bullied themselves
They have had a difficult home life
They are in or have had a difficult and/or controlling relationship
They were in a controlling relationship
They have no control over their own lives
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP SOMEONE WHO IS BEING BULLIED
Speak to the person being bullied and tell them you want to help them
Tell them you can go to tell a teacher with them
Persuade them to tell their parents
Speak to your own parents to see if they can speak to a teacher or can think of another way you can help them
Persuade your friend to write everything down - this helps not only get rid of bad feelings rather than bottling them up, but will also help if the bullying does not stop and the police have to become involved so they have a record of what the bully has done and how often they have done it
Make sure you and your other friends keep that person company during breaks so they are not on their own and less likely to be got at by the bully
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP YOURSELF IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED
Tell someone you trust - a parent, friend, friends parent, teacher, doctor, school nurse, social worker, family friend are just a few ideas as to who you may be able to turn to.
Call/email/text someone for support - childline offers support to you when you need it.
Get help online from other people your age going through similar difficulties by contacting them on the safe message boards which are run by childline.
As hard as it may be, do NOT let the bully bring you down and make you feel bad about yourself - be determined to know how special and beautiful you really are - because you ARE.
LINKS WHICH MAY HELP YOU:
ANTI BULLYING WEEK
Watch the short video below to see how much bullying destroys the life of another. Do not allow yourself to be that person - ALWAYS treat others the way you want to be treated yourself. If you would not like to feel like Holly, in the video below, then make sure you don't do it to anybody else. If you know a person like "Holly" then become her friend so she/he has at least one person they can talk to and make life a little bit happier. You will be glad you did.
Watch this video and see the difference you can make to someone's life by refusing to allow bullying! Don't stand by and watch a bully ruin someone's life - stand up and show the bullies that their desire to destroy the life of another is NOT welcome and will NOT be tolerated. As this video shows, being kind and caring is so much more popular, nicer, kinder and much more rewarding than being a coward by bullying another. Stand up for someone you see bullying another - or tell an adult you trust.